June 27 at 12:54 PM ·

I know I haven’t written in a while. I’m trying to keep quiet during the judicial process.

However, one month from today is the 5th anniversary of my son’s attack. Tomorrow will be a month till 5 years since my son died.

I had a counselor that told me to choose a date I will stop mourning my son and to stick to it.

I fired her.

But the truth is I have already chosen the date…

I will stop mourning my son the day I die.

I’m in contact with more families that have lost someone to homicide than I care to say… they will never give up either.

And still I hear that they’ve been told to move on as well.

To all of my brothers and sisters in the same situation, I understand how you feel when they say this.

What I say to you is to do the same thing I did! Fire them! Walk away! Delete them from your life!

You have enough to deal with! Let them enjoy the absence of you and your grief in their life! If your absence truly bothers them, they will apologize and join your efforts. If not, they weren’t worth the pain they bring.

In a little less than 2 months we will be trying Corey’s murderer. THAT is my first priority, not dealing with people telling me how I should or shouldn’t feel.

Put this on my gravestone:

She stopped missing him today.